First Date Questions Answered for Guys

Did you ask a beautiful, stunning and fun lady out on a date?  Great!  The ‘asking’ is often 75% of the battle.  And she said yes?  Wow!  You’re probably pretty excited.  Note however that as the date gets closer, that excitement might start to turn to nerves.

As the date gets closer you’re going to be thinking a lot about how you are going to act, what you are going to wear.  You’ll need to get your car cleaned out and washed.  You might even need a hair cut!  Where are you going to go? 

If you have first date questions, here are some things to consider to put your mind at ease and make the actual date fun and relaxed. 

- Knowing What You Are Doing Before You Are Doing It

First of all, stick to the original plan.  Don’t spring something on her that wasn’t mentioned in your initial conversation.  Stick to the plan.  Don’t decide to go to a different destination without her knowing about it before that day.  If you do spring something on her, there is a very good chance it could backfire big time.  Little things are ok, but don’t make huge changes.

You don’t know what you want to do and weren’t sure when you last talked to her?  Well, let’s get cracking!  You don’t want to wait until the last minute.  Don’t be afraid to ask her for ideas too. That’s fine.  Why not better the chances of her having a good time.  Remember, this isn’t about you.  If you remember that, you’ll have greater success.  So what’s it going to be?  Are you going to take her to see a film?  To a fancy restaurant?  Maybe a concert to go see her favorite band.   

Plan how you are going to both get to the destinations.  Your best bet is to pick her up at her house and take her on the date.  But if there are odd circumstances, no worries.  As long as she’s ok with it and tells you so.

- What Else Do You Have to Think About Before the Date?

Let’s face it, you’re a guy.  Chances are you aren’t going to have the date all planned and be ready for everything days in advance. But try to have the most important things prepared. 

Things like funds is an important consideration before that day.  Know about how much this is going to cost you and I’d recommend having at least double that on you and available.  Seriously, you don’t actually know where this date will take you.  Some of the best dates I’ve been on ended up doing some spontaneous thing that cost more money, but made all the difference in it’s success!

And make sure you are showered.  I would recommend no further back then a few hours before the date starts.  Clean yourself up, shave.  Smell nice; no, slapping on a ton of cologne is not the answer.  In fact, my advice is to be mellow with the smells.  Make sure your clothes are ironed.  Those type of things.  If you have to get off work early or make adjustments to your regular schedule to make sure you have enough time to get ready, prepare for that.

- You’re On the Date!

This should be the easy part if you have prepared yourself.  This is where the fun should begin.  Relax and have a good time.  And make her the center of the universe for you that evening.  This show isn’t about you!

Be on time of course.  Don’t keep her waiting for anything.

Ask her about herself.  Women love talking about themselves.  They love talking about what’s going on in their lives, their friends and their family.  Hopefully she’ll ask about what’s going on with you, but don’t force that.  And don’t only talk about you.  Be calm with your conversation.  Pause and give her time to respond.

There will always be awkward moments; no date is perfect.  There will always be pauses in the conversation and one of you is likely to say something slightly embarrassing.  If your first date doesn’t go as planned, don’t panic.  Hopefully, you will have a second chance to make a good impression.

-Joe Taylor